Dec 6....Friends...I got Friends.....
8:30 pm
I just got home from meeting a golf buddy for a beer. My golf buddy walked 3 miles to the bar in 20 degree weather because he didn't have a car available. but he made it out. and we had a nice time talking about golf, jobs, and life. Since the shit hit the fan, I have had friends reach out to offer their help...offer to have a bite to eat before golf (and give me more than my share of mulligans)...to share their own divorce experience and how unpleasant it was for them...to tell me the best is yet to come. to get an impossible to get bottle of bourbon and talk over a nice cocktail...to go to the beach at sunrise to talk. to offer to buy a plane ticket to Florida for Christmas...to chat on their way to work even though they were going through their own breakup. to come by the house to chat and watch football so I wasn't in an empty house for awhile.....to come downtown to give me a golf lesson and have lunch...Friends. What did I do to deserve such good friends? Last month I was in a bind because my brother's house was not availble to stay at for a weekend....instead of having to check into Motel 6, I had a friend insist that we drive up to his place in Michigan where we chilled for the weekend....talked, golfed, drank, ate.....something I needed at that time. As I told him at the time, he actually made it seem like he wasn't having an awful time with me. and he laughed at my bad joke. Friends....not sure if my friends realize what their kindness meant to me..and means to me. To them, they were just being friends because to each of them, that is what friends do. To me they were lifesavers. None of them were asked for anything...yet each offered whatever I needed. Friends...My brother cleared out his office to make a nice place for me to stay while this process plays out. Made room for me to store my shoes and the rest of my stuff that I would just leave on the floor. His wife and son treat me like I belong there. All my brothers and sisters have been so very supportive....each of the relationships I describe make me realize what I always have had...and what I did not appreciate nearly enough before now. sort of like how you take for granted that when your car has 4 good tires all is well...but if you have a flat and no jack...you need help.
For so long, I would turn down invitations from friends to do things with them..to have dinner...or grab a beer. to go to Michigan to golf. to go to Vegas....no...I had to get home to be unhappy. (yes...I know how stupid that sounds). and that is all on me....no one but me. I built the jail that I lived in. I had the keys to get out but did not use them. now I know how dumb that was. too soon old, and too late smart.
I have turned the corner. I am ready for what comes next. I went through the weak period (and boy was I weak)....and it was friends that made sure I had what I needed to move forward. I was having breakfast Saturday with my friend before golf....he said..."let me know what I can do...not sure how I can help" I hope he realizes he was doing exactly what I needed. All of my friends did just that. I hope they know that.
Friends.....funny thing...I have read and re-read this post and each time I smile. because I have friends that do things like that. God am I lucky.
I just got home from meeting a golf buddy for a beer. My golf buddy walked 3 miles to the bar in 20 degree weather because he didn't have a car available. but he made it out. and we had a nice time talking about golf, jobs, and life. Since the shit hit the fan, I have had friends reach out to offer their help...offer to have a bite to eat before golf (and give me more than my share of mulligans)...to share their own divorce experience and how unpleasant it was for them...to tell me the best is yet to come. to get an impossible to get bottle of bourbon and talk over a nice cocktail...to go to the beach at sunrise to talk. to offer to buy a plane ticket to Florida for Christmas...to chat on their way to work even though they were going through their own breakup. to come by the house to chat and watch football so I wasn't in an empty house for awhile.....to come downtown to give me a golf lesson and have lunch...Friends. What did I do to deserve such good friends? Last month I was in a bind because my brother's house was not availble to stay at for a weekend....instead of having to check into Motel 6, I had a friend insist that we drive up to his place in Michigan where we chilled for the weekend....talked, golfed, drank, ate.....something I needed at that time. As I told him at the time, he actually made it seem like he wasn't having an awful time with me. and he laughed at my bad joke. Friends....not sure if my friends realize what their kindness meant to me..and means to me. To them, they were just being friends because to each of them, that is what friends do. To me they were lifesavers. None of them were asked for anything...yet each offered whatever I needed. Friends...My brother cleared out his office to make a nice place for me to stay while this process plays out. Made room for me to store my shoes and the rest of my stuff that I would just leave on the floor. His wife and son treat me like I belong there. All my brothers and sisters have been so very supportive....each of the relationships I describe make me realize what I always have had...and what I did not appreciate nearly enough before now. sort of like how you take for granted that when your car has 4 good tires all is well...but if you have a flat and no jack...you need help.
For so long, I would turn down invitations from friends to do things with them..to have dinner...or grab a beer. to go to Michigan to golf. to go to Vegas....no...I had to get home to be unhappy. (yes...I know how stupid that sounds). and that is all on me....no one but me. I built the jail that I lived in. I had the keys to get out but did not use them. now I know how dumb that was. too soon old, and too late smart.
I have turned the corner. I am ready for what comes next. I went through the weak period (and boy was I weak)....and it was friends that made sure I had what I needed to move forward. I was having breakfast Saturday with my friend before golf....he said..."let me know what I can do...not sure how I can help" I hope he realizes he was doing exactly what I needed. All of my friends did just that. I hope they know that.
Friends.....funny thing...I have read and re-read this post and each time I smile. because I have friends that do things like that. God am I lucky.
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