Dec 6, 2017

We take for granted when our lives are relatively calm, and we don't have any big issues weighing on our minds.  then when a big issues is on the radar, it becomes an all consuming thing that occupies most of our daily thought.  I have been lucky and not had too many issues of a catastrophic nature befall me or my family.  Now with the divorce, there are so many things that I never thought about that I now have to think about.  and deal with.  oh well, that's life - many folks before me have come through divorce just fine, as I will as well.

as I wind my way through the unpleasantness of the situation, I realize when married, you have things that hold a couple together...kids, the house, common interests....but then when the divorce process starts all you have holding you together are the differences between the two people; differences that took years to develop and became bigger issues than they needed to be.  as the saying goes, familiarity breeds contempt.  The more familiar we are with our partner, the greater the possibility we become fed up with some character trait we see often.  Over time, the frustration becomes greater..emotions come to the surface after simmering for years or decades.  back and forth...you did this, you did that....oh yea, I remember the time you did something that I am just now metioning....

human nature.  hopefully my book that deals with human nature (once I finish it) will be as astute as I think I am.  We are all brilliant in our own minds.